The easiest way to make a tough situation tougher is to have a negative attitude. I’m not saying bury your head in the sand and pretend your situation isn’t tough. I’m saying if you focus on the negative, if you amplify your negative self-talk, the situation gets even harder to deal with.
I remember one of my battalion commanders (this is a guy who fell out of a helicopter in Vietnam and was told he was never going to walk again, but was now standing in front of us) saying, “It’s not as hard as it seems (we were about to do something really tough) but if you think it’s hard, it’s harder than it actually is.”
Don’t fuel your negative self-talk. If you do, your thoughts will turn dark, catch on like a wild fire, and consume you.