It’s a great tool for keeping track of your thoughts, working out problems or dialoguing with your subconscious mind among other things. I have heavy periods of journalling and then sometimes I go months without journalling at all, but I always know when it’s time to return, like now. I need the space to unload my brain on to paper.


In today’s episode of the Havana Cafe Sessions Podcast, Clay and Sarah discuss the idea of the existential crisis.

Highlights include:

* Defining the Existential Crisis

* Tensions between our quest for meaning and the existentialist view of the meaningless, indifferent universe

* Five aspects of the Existential Crisis (check out the great youtube video from The School of Life ‘What is an Existential Crisis’)

* Potential positive aspects to the supposed ‘crisis’ of existential realisation

* Clay and Sarah’s own experiences in (constant) Existential Crisis 🙂

The idea of the existential crisis has long lived in pop culture. One of the best recent examples is the satirical book The Midlife Crisis (part of the Ladybird series for adults), which despite its humorous intent, actually begins with the crux of the truth:

“When we are young, we all dream of doing something wonderful and exciting with our lives.
What will we be? A cosmonaut? An underwater detective? A tommy gunner? A groin surgeon? Anything is possible. And then one day, it isn’t.”

Another article to check out is George Dvorsky’s “How to Cope with an Existential Crisis” which looks at this from a psychological point of view in terms of ‘Existential anxiety’.

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I regularly touch base with people in my network to explore ideas and concepts and to share knowledge about what we’re finding out in the world in much the way we might have done back in the day sitting around a campfire. I love Tamryn Sherriffs’s spirit of exploration and the things she’s doing to break down the barriers in the learning and development space as well as cultural and racial barriers in her native South Africa.

I hopped on Skype to talk to Tamryn about the filters we use to view the world and create the content that we distribute across the Internet.


:42 Tamryn explains how she uses her vlog to provoke people to show up in a brave and daring way
2:00 Tamryn explains how meta messaging helps her spread her message
3:10 Clay explains the philosophy that underpins his role as a coach
4:19 Clay reveals that he is a player in his own play
5:09 Tamryn explains how she blends her message with how she lives
5:50 Clay shares the art of living aphorism he has used as a guide since leaving the army
7:10 Tamryn explains how she had to peel away the layers of traditional imprinting to become who she is now
8:50 Clay explains his vlogging style
9:39 Tamryn explains her vlogging style
10:49 Clay explains why he likes to create a dialogue with his viewers/listeners
11:15 Clay explains how he’s adopted Socrates’s approach to wisdom in his coaching and personal development work
13:14 Tamryn shares what projects she’s currently working on

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If you buy into the premise that you are the sum total of all the decisions you’ve made in the past, so every decision you’ve made in the past has led you to where you are standing or sitting reading this note right now.

With that in mind, the decisions that you make from this moment forward are going to affect your future self 5, 10, 15, 20 years down the road. So with your future self in mind, make decisions to make life easier for your future self. Be compassionate toward the you of the future.

Alright, so what are you going to do different today to set your future self up for success?


Awesome news people! I’m working on a project with a company called Clarity4D. They’re a training company that focuses on behavioural style profiles. For a limited time only, they’ve made their New Direction profile available to me to give to you for free. It’s normally £35, but it’s yours for free – bargain.

The profile will give you an insight on your strengths and how other people see you. All useful stuff for helping you be the best version of yourself. This is especially useful if you’ve just started something new or are about to.

Oh and did I mention it was free?!

When you click on the link, it’ll take you to a landing page. Just click on start profile button to begin.

Are you looking for the path to success?

The I-Ching tells us that “it is only when we have the courage to face things exactly as they are, without any self-deception or illusions, that a light will develop out of events, by which the path to success may be recognised.”

The thing is though, many of us spend our energy entangled in our self-sealed comfort bubble that re-enforces our limiting beliefs. Beliefs that keep us safe, or at least gives us the illusion of safety. Inside our bubble we’re not forced to act, we only need to maintain our status quo. Change requires effort, effort that we tell ourselves we don’t have time for at the moment. We’ll wait ’till after the holidays, begin fresh with the New Year! I’m sure you recognise this pattern. The things is, you and I know there will never be a ‘right’ time. Something always comes up that helps us justify delaying taking any action. You’ll start next week right?

If you really want to make a change, you have to give yourself permission to act now. You don’t need anybody else to give you permission, that power reside with you. Your journey of a lifetime will begin with a single step.

The time is now.

Your path awaits you. Do you have the courage to walk it?

As I sit here having my morning cup of coffee, my mind slips back into the past.

I remember when I showed up for my first day as a manufacturing engineer at the General Electric plant in Philadelphia. There was this crusty old guy named Bubba. He took me under his wing. He had taken a liking to me because I was ex-military and so was he.

He had a multitude of colourful sayings like, “Don’t be running around here like a blue-assed fly!” But the one that has stuck with me the most is when he said:

“If you can’t run with the big dogs, stay on the porch.”

It was his way of telling me that if I wanted to be successful at G.E. I couldn’t sit back and watch, that I had to put myself out there and not just follow the pack, but lead it.

How about you, are you staying on the porch or are ready to get out there and start running with the big dogs?

If you’re putting off doing something because you fear you might be criticised, then don’t put it off any longer, because, you know what, people are going to criticise you anyway – especially small-minded people.

Look, you can’t control what other people are going to think, so don’t let what other people think control you.

I know we all want to feel liked and accepted by everyone – especially by those close to us like our family and friends and peers, but you and I both know, that it’s highly unlikely that EVERYONE will like your ideas, or like what you’re doing. Or even like you!That’s part of the game of being human.

Besides, if someone criticises you, it’s probably more about them then it is about you. They criticise you because you’re not doing what THEY want, or you’re not doing it the way THEY would do it. In the nicest possible way, so what?!

Do what you want to do and let other people sort themselves out. Why hold yourself back for fear of someone criticising you. As Eleanor Roosevelt said, “Do what you feel is right, for you’ll be criticised anyway.”

Ok, so what are you going to do today that you’ve been putting off doing out fear of being criticised?

I don’t know if you’ve noticed this, but our dreams take constant work. What I mean by that is you have to work on your dreams daily, otherwise they remain forever in the future, in that mystical place known as Someday.

Unless you take some action toward your dream every day, you’ll never get there.

If you find yourself getting stuck in the how, look up and follow your dreams, they know the way.

What small step are going to take today toward your dream?