One of the reasons I’ve never been a big fan of labels is that they limit you. They close down the potential of possibilities.
You are many things. You’re a sinner and a saint; a murderer and a monk. The entire world that you experience happens inside your head. Nothing exists outside of your mind. That’s a powerful concept worth grasping.
We’re closing down on the first full week of 2017. Most people have returned back to work. We’re all working on a new set of goals or New Year’s resolutions (hopefully). And already some of you might be finding yourself slipping. In fact, statics say that by the end of next week 46% of us will have given up on our New Year’s resolutions. And come 2018 (I know that seems an age away) only 8% of will have actually achieved what we set out to do. In this video, I offer some tips that might help you stay the course.
If you buy into the premise that you are the sum total of all the decisions you’ve made in the past, so every decision you’ve made in the past has led you to where you are standing or sitting reading this note right now.
With that in mind, the decisions that you make from this moment forward are going to affect your future self 5, 10, 15, 20 years down the road. So with your future self in mind, make decisions to make life easier for your future self. Be compassionate toward the you of the future.
Alright, so what are you going to do different today to set your future self up for success?
The I-Ching tells us that “it is only when we have the courage to face things exactly as they are, without any self-deception or illusions, that a light will develop out of events, by which the path to success may be recognised.”
The thing is though, many of us spend our energy entangled in our self-sealed comfort bubble that re-enforces our limiting beliefs. Beliefs that keep us safe, or at least gives us the illusion of safety. Inside our bubble we’re not forced to act, we only need to maintain our status quo. Change requires effort, effort that we tell ourselves we don’t have time for at the moment. We’ll wait ’till after the holidays, begin fresh with the New Year! I’m sure you recognise this pattern. The things is, you and I know there will never be a ‘right’ time. Something always comes up that helps us justify delaying taking any action. You’ll start next week right?
If you really want to make a change, you have to give yourself permission to act now. You don’t need anybody else to give you permission, that power reside with you. Your journey of a lifetime will begin with a single step.
The time is now.
Your path awaits you. Do you have the courage to walk it?
If you’re putting off doing something because you fear you might be criticised, then don’t put it off any longer, because, you know what, people are going to criticise you anyway – especially small-minded people.
Look, you can’t control what other people are going to think, so don’t let what other people think control you.
I know we all want to feel liked and accepted by everyone – especially by those close to us like our family and friends and peers, but you and I both know, that it’s highly unlikely that EVERYONE will like your ideas, or like what you’re doing. Or even like you!That’s part of the game of being human.
Besides, if someone criticises you, it’s probably more about them then it is about you. They criticise you because you’re not doing what THEY want, or you’re not doing it the way THEY would do it. In the nicest possible way, so what?!
Do what you want to do and let other people sort themselves out. Why hold yourself back for fear of someone criticising you. As Eleanor Roosevelt said, “Do what you feel is right, for you’ll be criticised anyway.”
Ok, so what are you going to do today that you’ve been putting off doing out fear of being criticised?
I don’t know if you’ve noticed this, but our dreams take constant work. What I mean by that is you have to work on your dreams daily, otherwise they remain forever in the future, in that mystical place known as Someday.
Unless you take some action toward your dream every day, you’ll never get there.
If you find yourself getting stuck in the how, look up and follow your dreams, they know the way.
What small step are going to take today toward your dream?